Parenting by connection

During the last 6 weeks I lived a life changing parenting experience!

I did the Building Emotional Understanding course by hand in hand parenting.

Now I am finally parenting the way my heart believe to be right, not the way people around me, or the world, tell me to do!

Well, as a caregiver, I am experiencing a lot of transformation with my son and the other kids. 

I learned new ways of seting limits and, more important, LISTENING for the kids. 

I learned how to reconize there flags of "Iam not happy" "Iam disconect" "My brain is not organized enough to follow your instruction..." and I learned tools to know what to do at those moments.

This is a never -ending- learning experience, and Iam very excited to keep learning and listening!

I copyed from there website the hand in hand approach, so may be easier to understand what Iam talking about! 

Please, check out there website (www.handinhandparenting.org) to read more about it as well as, articles about every parenting chalenge we can think about! 

Hand in hand parenting approach

Hand in Hand Parenting works with parents of young children providing resources, training, and lots of support. For over 20 years, our Parenting by Connection approach has given parents practical tools to resolve universal family challenges. Unlike other parenting methods, which rely on systems of rewards and punishment, our philosophy is centered on children's strong, innate desire to love and be loved. Ourfresh and effective framework is consistent with the latest research and results in long-term family success.

Parenting by Connection foundations:

• When children feel connected, they learn readily, love easily, and become caring leaders among their peers. A healthy parent-child connection enables a child to fully access his intelligence and ability. 
• When parents feel connected with their children and with other parents, they have greater success at solving problems at the heart of family and community life. Parenting becomes more fun, and more rewarding.
• When children’s behavior goes “off track,” they are asking for closeness, connection and understanding. Parents can use the tools of Special Time, Playlistening, Setting Limits or Staylistening to rebuild the connection with their children. The child offloads stress, reconnects, and can then make thoughtful decisions and learn from his experience.
• When emotional stress sends parents' behavior "off track," they need the support of a listener who appreciates how much they care and how hard they try. Parents need th e safety to offload feelings that interfere with their ability to guide their children with love and sensible limits, kindly held.